People say that never expect anything from others; but still we expect many things from our loved ones and friend. Is it bad to expect then? I think this is the most difficult thing in any relationship. One should be aware of the rising expectations of the other person in the relationship. As far as I know, whenever we get involved in someone; instead of reducing the expectations we keep on increasing them. This makes the other person really uncomfortable in that relation.
But in the beginning of any relation; if both of them are fulfilling each others’ expectations; then that should be continued throughout their life. Later no one in that relation should deny those expectations. It’s just like making someone used to a thing and then denying the very same fact (just like an Addiction.)
I think, expectations are root cause of many misunderstanding. ‘I expected your call; and you didn’t even bother to call me or sms me?’… This simple statement says thousand words of anger and distrust. And I am damn sure; most of the misunderstandings remain unaffected as we never talk openly about the expectations. If from the beginning only we adopt not to expect anything then there is less pain. Never expect anything from anyone. You don’t know who will hurt you. You keep on fulfilling the other person’s expectations and the other person never bothers to do anything for you. This hurts more than anything and breaks the heart.
But the question remains the same… why do we expect at the first place? If you follow the golden rule of not expecting anything from others you will be quite happy in your life. But emotional people fail to do this. Their every relation suffers from the same phenomenon…
But in the beginning of any relation; if both of them are fulfilling each others’ expectations; then that should be continued throughout their life. Later no one in that relation should deny those expectations. It’s just like making someone used to a thing and then denying the very same fact (just like an Addiction.)
I think, expectations are root cause of many misunderstanding. ‘I expected your call; and you didn’t even bother to call me or sms me?’… This simple statement says thousand words of anger and distrust. And I am damn sure; most of the misunderstandings remain unaffected as we never talk openly about the expectations. If from the beginning only we adopt not to expect anything then there is less pain. Never expect anything from anyone. You don’t know who will hurt you. You keep on fulfilling the other person’s expectations and the other person never bothers to do anything for you. This hurts more than anything and breaks the heart.
But the question remains the same… why do we expect at the first place? If you follow the golden rule of not expecting anything from others you will be quite happy in your life. But emotional people fail to do this. Their every relation suffers from the same phenomenon…
2 comments:
so true dude so bluddy true
guess we both crash landed becuase of the same malfunction in our systems.
I totally agree with you on the fact that one shud not keep expectations, but nontheless, its not humanly possible to do so. I also bliv in not keeping expectations, but i was unable to do so. However, from watevr i've learnt all thru, i wud make a statement that one shud not build expectations cuz minimum expectations mite hurt less...
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