Sometimes I wonder why we fall in love. We never think about the future of the relation, I mean we never think whether this relation will continue till the end of our lives. Promises, commitments and all those talks about the future just vanish in thin air when there is some misunderstanding, saturation or some sort of complication. These things should actually strengthen the relationship; however if we take our own decisions without even talking with the other person who is on the other side of relation, then it’s a big mess. These kinds of decisions break heart of the other person. “Is this the same guy/gal who used to love me so much and now he/she doesn’t even bother about me….” This feeling of rejection is so hard to digest. This pain is really heart breaking. No one should be in such position that he/she doesn’t even know what went wrong and why on the earth this guy/gal hates me so much, why there is so much swing in their emotional approach towards us.
I think, more we think about the problem, more complicated it becomes. We simply can’t find the answer. The other person is having all the fun and we keep on thinking what went wrong. Was that my mistake? Practical people easily forget about this, but what about emotional and sentimental people? Isn’t it like accident for them, from which they can’t even recover easily…. But still the question remains why do people do such things? I really don’t know the answer. “God knows” is the simplest of the answers.
Now the burning topic today is the “Physical” nature of any relation. I agree. One shouldn’t cross one’s limits while in any intense, close relationship. But when you get physically close to anyone (while hugging and kissing), that touch of warmth, love takes you more and more close to the other person, don’t you think so? How many of you can forget your first hug and kiss? When you are serious in any relationship, its bound to have some physical closeness, at least in today’s age. But when such serious relationships break, those touches remain there like scars. We can suppress them but it’s not easy to forget those intense moments, not for emotional people. It’s really hard to get in any other relationship when you were in a relation where you had your promises and commitments and never thought about the unexpected break off.
There should be valid reason to break up. You should be able to explain what are the reasons or on what basis you took this strange and heart breaking decision. When you just stop talking or refuse to give any explanation its like a big question mark of life. For the whole life the other person keeps thinking about this question, which can only be answered by the other person. Why can’t people think about the other half of their relationship? When you commit something then you should be brave enough to tell the reasons of breaking off. It’s true that there are flaws in every person, so is it logical to ignore that person instead of answering his/her questions? I’m not saying that you should be in any relationship when that’s giving you pain, but at least you can talk and then take the decision. There may be possibility that that’s just an intermediate stage. I don’t know. But I think sometimes we take decisions without thinking about the consequences of that decision and just remain in our dream world that whatever decision I’ve taken is the right decision. We must TALK…
